The ultra sound tech asked if we wanted to find out the gender of our baby. We'd discussed the matter and decided that, since we'd never done it before, we'd find out this time around instead of waiting til the end. How strange it is to tell people we are having a boy and yet have no baby to show. I definitely prefer the big reveal after the effort of labor, but knowing we're having a boy beforehand will have it's benefits eventually I'm sure...at least it cuts down on the number of names we need to consider.
Grant's reaction to our news was, "Whatevs." I mean, how excited is a three year old supposed to get about a baby he can't see yet? He'll be excited at the end because he does love babies. Merritt shouted, "YES! Boys rule in our family!" And Grace? Poor Gracie burst into tears. I was devastated by her sorrow. She threw herself into my arms and declared, "I'm boring of boys! I wanted two girls!!" I explained that we would be the two girls in our family and she answered, "Then I want THREE girls!" As she cried, I cried because I couldn't help think of how wonderful my own sisters are and how she would not have the same experiences of friendship and support that I have known in my life. (Chad and I both feel that this baby I'm carrying now will be our last...mostly because if I were to get pregnant again, I'd probably end up in the hospital since my health has been progressively worse each pregnancy.) Grace asked me why I was crying and I told her that I was just sorry she was so sad. Then she exclaimed, "But I love you!" and we hugged again and things got better afterward. Today she still wishes the baby was a girl, but the disappointment is not quite so keen. In my mind, this whole scenario is another vote in favor of waiting til the end to find out a baby's gender. I don't think she'd have cared nearly so much that the baby wasn't a girl if we'd been able to put a warm and wonderful bundle into her arms. Oh well! Maybe the ensuing four months will be helpful in this scenario by allowing time for Grace's emotional adjustment. Regardless of the drama, however, we're very pleased to be adding another boy to our family.
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And so our pattern continues--welcome to the three boys club!!! It's kind of fun that we have the same family makeup! And...CONGRATS! I was actually just about to email you and see if you'd had your ultrasound yet (I totally forgot that you don't usually find out). You are a trooper Joanna, and I admire you for going through this again. I can't wait to at least see pics of the little guy, if I don't get to see him in person too soon.
We are so excited for you!!! We've got the three boys but no girls. :) So get to continue to rule as "Queen" of our household.
You're the "Queen" and Grace is the "princess" the boys need a sister to protect. :)
Congrats on your very exciting news!!!
My heart cried right along with Grace's! How wonderful babies are and three little missionaries, maybe four, is just great! You are very brave to find out. I still like not knowing.
Congratulations!
Poor Grace! I'm glad you found out early so she won't be upset when he finally arrives.
Boys are the best... but then, I don't know any different, do I?
Hope you're doing well - pregnancy is hard. Good thing those little babies are so worth it!
aaah, tell gracie that i have 8 brothers and they eventually became my bodyguards! she doesn't understand yet that she will get really great sister-in-laws later!
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